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Self-esteem is the way you regard yourself according to your worth and value. You cannot be fully happy in life if you do not have enough self-esteem and confidence in your abilities. Confidence is essential for healthy living.

Without self-esteem, you will feel depressed, unhappy, and insecure all the time. You will always disapprove of the things you accomplish. You will not seem to do anything right, thus making you stumble and fall in your every endeavor.

Improve your self-esteem and confidence. And do it now. Achieve it by following these simple steps.

1. Don’t let your fears overpower you. Face your fears. Fears are not as bad as you think they are. You will definitely boost your confidence if you effectively face your fears and eventually conquer them.

2. Learn from your mistakes. It is okay to fail. Just make sure you learn the lessons from these mistakes. Then, you won’t make the same ones anymore. Learning from your mistakes will also make you wiser and stronger when you face future challenges.

3. Assert yourself. Know what you want and work up the ways to get it. You can make your dreams come true. Do what it takes to reach your goals and materialize your dreams.

4. Reward yourself. You need to approve of yourself because if you don’t accept yourself, no one else will. Find ways to reward yourself when you achieve desired accomplishments.

5. Ask and know. If there is anything that you feel uncomfortable with, ask yourself why. Then deal with it. Do what it takes to rid yourself of that discomfort that you feel. Only then will real confidence show.

6. Do not allow yourself to fail. Failure happens when you let yourself be defeated. If you continue standing every time disappointment happens, you are not beaten yet. But if you stop fighting, that’s where it ends. You won’t get the confidence and the self-esteem you need if you stop the fight and fail to prove to yourself that you can do it.

7. Get help. There are a lot of good materials and people that can help in increasing your confidence. You can even get the help of a professional. Either way, if nothing seems to go right, there are other ways designed to aid you.

These are very simple things you can do to improve your self-esteem and confidence. These are good, effective tips. Follow these and you will see how you can boost your confidence up to the maximum level possible.

A lot of people I’ve talked to have said they feel like there is a force field around them keeping them from succeeding. That has happened to me for years. But that was before I had an overhaul on my attitude. There are a lot of people in life that become seriously depressed because they couldn’t accomplish what they really thought they deserved. But eventually, they come to realize the depression was a symptom of being totally focused on “ME”.
Now I know it may not be about depression but I am afraid, a lot of times it is the next step in a series of emotional turmoils. The bottom line is the best way to overcome the spinning wheel syndrome is to start at home.
What do I mean by “The Spinning Wheel Syndrome”? Glad you asked.
The Spinning Wheel Syndrome is a state of mind first of all. You first have to get past this state of mind. I do know that if you focus and never stop pushing and fighting toward your goal, you will eventually reach it. You will find traction. Two more things:
1. Do not compare yourself with others. They may have a different road to travel than you. Your life is significant in its own right. Live your own life. Don’t try and live any one else’s.

2. Whatever you do, do NOT fall into the victim vacuum. That is the place where every thing is “whoa as me” or “I can’t get a break.” Or “why doesn’t anyone love me?” Basically it is a very severe and chronic case of being a whiner.
Keep pressing on and evaluating your state of mind by asking what would be the first obstacle I needed to overcome. Then overcome it. After that, start the next obstacle.
When you start to see progress (and I did say “when”) drop me a line and let me know how it’s going.

Is this familiar? You wake up in the morning and you feel like getting back to sleep again. Work, family life and everything seems to move like a merry-go-round. You feel trapped in a routine. Nothing’s new anymore and you’re bored to tears. ‘Been there, done that” flows out as your mantra. If you said ‘yes’ to any of these, then you need to get back on track. You need to be inspired at life again. So how do you find that spark?

· Relax and have fun. Medically, psychologically, physically and emotionally, stress is the number one source of life’s difficulties. Reacting to them is draining your energy. Easing up allows you to slow down enough to view the world differently. Turn to your family – see how you’re kids have grown; talk to your partner about simple topics; call the relatives you’ve lost track off; send your Mom flowers. These little things will count a lot into making you view them in a different light. Pretty soon, you’ll remember how important they are in your life. Try and do something for yourself too. Whether it’s getting a revamp in your wardrobe; eating your favorites without worrying about calories; going to a spa; or getting a new book, do whatever you want….just enjoy yourself.

· Learn something new. Be inspired by learning a new skill. Try to remember something that you’ve been planning for a long time to do but never had the time for it. Did you ever wanted to learn Japanese cooking? Or baking? Run a marathon? Study Spanish? Cross stitching? Origami? Wakeboarding? The adrenalin of the unknown and untried will surely give you something to get out of bed for.

· Be thankful. Even for a short moment, reflect on what you have positively and don’t think of all that you don’t have. Good health, nice kids and good relationships are some of those things that we take for granted until something happens to them. Right now that you have them, be thankful that you do. You’ll find that a re-focus on the non-material things, especially on relationships, will motivate you to greater heights.

· Pray/Meditate. Connecting with your spirit is the simplest way to categorize and when it’s necessary, remove the clutter and baggage that’s dragging you down. New inspiration, new goals, new ways will come into your life when you let go of them.

Greet the new day with a smile. Be inspired, live well and prosper.

How many times do you laugh in a day? Research shows that a newborn baby laughs around 300 to 400 times a day. But a grown up hardly has time to have a hearty laugh these days. Grownups’ laughs are few and far between than children’s. As we grow we tend to get busy with our problems and issues. Stress tends to take over us. As a result we have forgotten how to laugh from the bottom of our heart like a child.

Stress is one bad factor that controls all aspects of our life. It affects our physical and psychological health. Stress creates all kinds of health problems such as high blood pressure, ulcers, heart disease, insomnia, depression, etc. It also affects our performance at work and at home.

Laughter is a great stress buster. Here is some of the stress relieving benefits obtained through laughter:

1.Laughter reduces the level of stress hormones such as epinephrine, adrenaline and cortisol.
2.It increases the level of health-enhancing hormones such as endorphins. It strengthens our immune system by increasing the release of anti-bodies in our system.
3.It leads to a physical and emotional release - many people cry at the end of a good laughter. There is a sense of freedom from bottled-up emotions. They experience a cleansed feeling after a hearty laugh.
4.It is a good internal workout – a good belly laugh exercises the diaphragm, the abdominal muscles and the heart. You feel more relaxed afterwards.
5.It distracts your feelings away from anger, guilt, shame, etc. so that your focus is shifted from negative feelings to positive ones.

Laughter plays a vital role in a human being’s wellbeing. Laughter has the capacity to heal and make us feel healthier so that we feel refreshed and we regain our strength to carry on with our life. Some of the medical benefits of laughter are: Improved blood circulation, increase in the sense of wellbeing due to release of endorphins, which are in layman’s language called as ‘feel-good hormones’, increased immunity, pain relief, etc.

Now that you understand the positive effects of laughter why don’t you raise your laughter level with the following tactics?

1.Instead of watching serious movies on romance and war, you could watch truly hilarious movies on TV or go to funny movies and enjoy a belly-full of laughter with your family.
2.There are enough worries in life. Instead of focusing on them, try to laugh at them. Complain less and laugh more.
3.Studies show that faked laughter also has positive benefits on health. Fake laughter may lead to real smiles and laughter.
4.Make it a point to read joke books or watch funny movies before going to bed because it relaxes you and helps you to have a pleasant sleep.

Life may not always seem fair. Oftentimes, you feel angry and frustrated, then later on wish you could have some degree of control over your emotions. This is quite understandable.

Of all human feelings, anger is probably the most difficult emotion to restrain. Being able to manage it well is the real mark of an effective person.

So, what are ways to manage anger? Here are some tips:

Breathe. Anger is an abstract term used to encapsulate that feeling of rage and passionate displeasure over something, someone, or maybe even yourself. It may feel so overwhelming that you normally seek ways to release it. You imagine yourself bursting into pieces if you fail to do so.

However, simply releasing it and exploding in fury often times result to a mess - leaving a trail of hurt feelings, unkind words, and damaged relations.

There is a better way of releasing anger systematically. Just breathe - inhale and exhale. Fill your brain and body with oxygen, and then count from one to ten. If you have an extremely negative thought about someone, try counting from one to ten until the anger subsides.

Never release your anger on persons or objects. This is the usual mistake of people who could not contain what they feel. Never punch someone or pound the mirror for you will only hurt yourself. Do not throw that flower vase! It is made of genuine China porcelain and is expensive. Do not throw your engagement ring! It is a handcrafted heirloom and it belonged to your fiancé’s great-grandmother.

The list can go on but the bottom line is this: there is no point of lashing out on people or objects. You will only regret your actions; and there is no sense of accomplishment in having to pay for items that are ruined. The damage has been done and you will only feel deeply remorseful.

Refrain from doing anything when you are angry. Rational thinking evades you when you are overwhelmed or engulfed by emotions. In that state of fury, it is almost impossible to be rational about the things you do or say. It is only after you unleashed the anger that you begin to realize the greater damage that has been done, and then you feel regret and sorry afterwards. Even if you do ask for forgiveness, sometimes it is just too late. You have already hurt someone’s feelings irreparably.

To prevent complicating things, seek relief from solitude and quietness. Be quiet. Do not curse – you may be liable for slander, defamation, or verbal abuse. Control yourself.

If you have to say something, make sure it will reap positive results. In one of the training sessions on personal development, one speaker shared this technique: If you feel angry with someone, say to yourself, “I bless you and wish you well”. This will allow you to transform the situation into something favorable for both parties involved.

If you really, really need to express anger, leave and go somewhere else. If you badly need to say something or shout, go some place where no one could hear you. Go to the washroom and shout as loud as you can.

Better yet, release your anger by shouting in front of the mirror. When in front of the mirror, you will realize that anger does not look good on you at all. In some cases, people laugh upon seeing weird, contorted, and funny versions of themselves in the mirror.

Evaluate the reason for your anger. When you are already calm, look at the bigger picture. Realize that you may be putting the blame on others, forgetting that you are also accountable for the misunderstanding.

Ask yourself. What caused your anger? What triggered your fury? How did you react? What was the result? What will you do the next time? How can this experience turn you into a better person?

Sometimes, the problem might only be in the way you look at things. Maybe it is time for a change in perspective, after sensing bitterness, pessimism, and skepticism, as this will hamper your capability to establish meaningful relationships with people. Rather than taking this disruptive route, take advantage of the lessons that can be learned from such experience.

Remember these tips always!